Some prototypes of SPs.
1. A SP, which asserts herself on behalf of the
host
Ms. M, a young
woman works hard on the floor of a restaurant until late at night, five times a
week. Although she is generally satisfied with the working environment, she is
unhappy about her boss, middle aged single mal, who asks her out for drink after
the work, which tends to last many hours, sometimes until early next morning. M
gets exhausted, but cannot decline his invitation as he is her boss anyway, and
by her nature, M has difficulty rejecting such a show of friendship by someone.
Her therapist, being well aware of M’s having different parts of personality, proposes
half seriously to see if “someone2 can say “no” to the boss’s bad habit on M’s
behalf. In the next session, M reported that one day when their restaurant sent
off their last customers and the boss asked if she wants to join him for a
drink, “someone” takes her over and got quite aggressive, knocking off tables, throwing
chairs, screaming at him and demanding him not to ask M out again, as M cannot
say “no” to anyone and got totally fed up, but cannot express her feeling. The
whole process occurred without M’s awareness and quite taken aback the boss
accepted “his” demand. Then obviously, a child personality switched, quite
scared about what seems to have happened with all the tables and chairs scattered
around, needed to be reassured and consoled by the boss himself. M was later
told about what has happened by her boss, who even apologized her for not being
aware that M was not welcoming his invitation.
